TAMIL ANNUAL CONFERENCE
METHODIST WOMEN RETREAT 2019
BUILDING A CULTURE OF AFFIRMATION.
By : Sis Jennifer’s Dharam
God sees your hard work and faithfulness and wants to increase His influence and spiritual authority over you.
He wants you to know who you are in the core of your being and walk with authority from that place.
We are leaders. People watch our lives. What are we modelling. Great to have programmes but it’s its whats inside of us that counts and people are drawn to that. What is it that you have that is uniquely you that others long for. Do you even know what it is?
One of the ways is to walk in this place of authority as a child of God is to live daily under God’s delight and pleasure over you and resting in His affirmation over you.
What is the culture of affirmation
This is not flattery
It’s all about looking at each one’s potential and speaking it out and affirming them.
It’s about seeing what they have and not what they don’t have
It’s about focusing on the good instead of the negatives.
Jesus himself needed the Father’s affirmation .Matthew 3:17 ESV Jesus had not even done a miracle yet God affirmed him.
And behold, a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.
So it’s not about the doing but the being.
Jesus always looked and called out the potential in his disciples.
1.Affirmation builds trust and opens doors for input and instruction. You can do this because the emotional tank is full and there is strength in relationship to receive correction.
2.Breaks false humility. So what is false humility. Not willing to accept what you are good in.
Humility is being known for who you are. So affirmation gives you room to function in your gifting without apologizing or walking on egg shells.
3.Breaks jealousy and being competitive. Because you are content and grateful to God with who you are and resting in that. No striving or performance to be accepted.
Breaks the spirit of comparison. How many of us compare ourselves to others. We feel we are …… not good enough, not spiritual enough and we feel we don’t measure up. So when you are affirmed in God and rest in that the spirit of comparison has no place.
4.Breaks the fear of failure and making mistakes. When we are affirmed we feel accepted and find our place of belonging. This creates a safe place to try out new things and not be afraid of making mistakes. Creativity flows. Not stuck in a rut but fresh thoughts from the heart of God.
5.Makes us feel valued and recognize each others gifts and that we need each other. Breaks that spirit of insecurity and feeling threatened. It makes us draw from each other and work in unity in the midst of diversity.If someone more gifted appears what do we do
Instead of empowering with boundaries we shut them down or control them.
African proverb says if you want to run fast run alone but if you want to run far run together
6.Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
What are we saying about each other. There a challenge from God’s heart to covenant our mouth to speak in the fear of God. To speak positive and affirming words.
Stop character assassination. Raise the bar.
To build or to break. Let’s be affirming. Let’s look at peoples potential. Let’s be quick to protect and promote each other.
Let’s build a culture of affirmation .
Knowing all this then why don’t we do it often enough.
We live in a driven performing culture that shapes our identity but true eternal value is found in our identity as God’s child.
We can only affirm others when we ourselves receive God’s affirmation over us.
We can give out only what we have.
Proverbs 139:17,18 ( Passion Translation)
Every single moment you are thinking of me! How precious and wonderful to consider that you cherish me constantly in your every thought! O God, your desires toward me are more than the grains of sand on every shore! When I awake each morning, you’re still with me
When was the last time you sat down and heard God speak His affirmation over you as His daughter
Building a culture of trust
When trust is broken mistrust sets in. We all have situations where trust was violated and been hurt. We build a protective wall around us and we say you can only come this far and no more.
Jesus trusted in his disciples even when he knew their weakness. Trust is the only currency in any relationship.
So how about us. We have a filing cabinet about individuals because we have been hurt.
I have heard this line way too many times.
Don’t trust her. Be careful about him. I can’t trust my husband.
We cannot openly share our deepest struggles with each other. Confidence will be broken.
It’s an endless cycle. Today there’s an invitation to respond to God to give up your offense.
Give up your mistrust. Give up our right of being right. Do you want to be right or reconciled.
Let’s start the new year surrendering people and situations that have wounded us. Forgiveness is a choice. The enemy will not let this go easily but let’s fight it with the truth.
I sense God wants to bring a deeper level of openness and trust with each other.